While sitting in the first few rows at my church, I once heard a guest speaker named Pastor Mark Driscoll say that this:
“…the longer someone is single, the longer they have to learn how to become selfish.”
My first thought as a College & Singles Pastor was “Oh man. They’re going to hate him. And probably me, too.”
But then I began thinking about my own life experiences. Pastor Mark’s statement was so descriptive of my own life as I looked back over the years. When I married Jennifer, my life & decisions suddenly involved two people in more ways than I could ever have anticipated. Our personalities rubbed off on one another. We learned to work together and live live side by side. The same is true now that we’ve had children! Roles shift, schedules adjust; life is different. It is good to embrace that and roll ahead! I’m not buying sports autographs and spending every other evening out with a bunch of guys. I have other priorities than my own career, my finances, my social life, and my friends. I have a family.
Look, I still have plenty of time with friends on my calendar, but I also invest energy into these little friends who sleep down the hall. I even brought my son to Opening Day of the 2010 MLB season; it was right before his first birthday and a great time! I was able to take him to a 2011 Dallas Cowboys preseason game, but I’m still working on permission to bring him to a December Buffalo Bills game. His mom has other designs…
Have your responsibilities changed as a parent? As a spouse?